How to handle! Soldiers in the Army!

What is the army doing to our soldiers? There is this big saying that we hear all the time and it is "the Army issued you a uniform it didn't issue you a family" in my opinion it's the families that issue the army a soldier so it should come first ! From the time our soldiers enter in the army they are yelled at like dogs! They are made to do things that they might not want to do! But does the army teach soldiers how to leave their work at work and not bring it home?
It seems that in a lot of situations induing mine our soldiers sometimes treat us as If we were there soldiers! They yell and talk to us as if we are their dogs! But what can we do about the situation? You yell back and you stand the chance of them coming at you blacking out and blaming it on the army or war! Our soldiers are seeing thing most will never see in their life time ! So shouldn't the army go out of their way to make sure their soldiers are being properly seen medically to keep from hearing "soldier stabs wife to death" or soldiers kills wife using combative moves taught to him by the military! So wives speak up if your afraid! Don't be afraid to talk to someone cause it could possibly save your life!